Moving Beyond Stress in San Diego

We’ve all been there: recipients of unpleasant news or decisions by others that would negatively impact our lives and our feeling of peace.  Job loss (or the threat of it); changes to importance relationships through divorce, death, or breaches of trust.  Stress is a part of life.  Our emotions (negative and positive) are a part of being human.  However, sometimes we may find ourselves getting stuck in our stress, unable to move past our difficult circumstances.  Sometimes chronic anxiety and depression may ensue. Sometimes people develop stress-related medical conditions.  However, it is important to remember that we still have power and choices we can make.

It All Boils Down to Three Simple Choices.  We can:

  1. Continue suffering.
  2. Try to change the situation or how we feel about the situation.
  3. Radically accept what has happened.


When we “radically” accept, we are accepting completely, wholly.  For most people, acceptance is a process.  We don’t just wake up and decide, “Today I will accept ‘xyz’ situation” and not continue to experience stress related to the event.  Inevitably, a thought, memory, encounter will trigger the emotions preventing us from accepting, and then we simply must begin the process of accepting again. 

Acceptance doesn’t mean that you agree with what has happened, but that you accept that a certain set of facts/events have taken place.  It involves letting go of fear and anger.  To radically accept, we might have to “let go” over and over.  When we move into acceptance, we can take back our power and begin to take the necessary steps to improve our circumstances and rebuild our lives.

If you need help with accepting and letting go, you might benefit from individual and confidential counseling or psychotherapy.  Another alternative is taking a stress-reduction course that helps you become calm and grounded within yourself.

Counseling and Psychotherapy in San Diego, CA

Becoming Relationship Smart—Tired of bad relationships?  Want to try to fix the relationship you are in?  Overcome what’s getting in the way of enjoying authentic and healthy relationships.


Choosing to Be Childless Men and Women:  Confused?  Feeling alone and judged?  Obtain clarity and support for this difficult decision and its impact to your relationships and well-being. 


Communication Skills CoachingWhat to Say, and How to Say It—Create effective communication strategies for those really difficult situations.  Coaching for individuals, employers, and Human Resources Managers.


Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training (DBT)—DBT includes skill development in Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Acceptance, Letting Go, and Mindfulness.  Skill development in psychotherapy improves self-esteem, induces effective action, and reduces anxiety and depression.   


Men in Transition:  Career, Economy, Finances, Fitness and Relationships—Feeling stuck?  Let’s face it.  You don’t climb Mount Everest without the guidance and skills of a quality Sherpa.  Experience the adventure of solution-focused therapy/coaching to discover how to get “unstuck” in a confidential and supportive environment.  You can have both your feelings and masculinity.  Your wife, girlfriend, or partner will love the results too. 


Mental Wellness and Prevention—Psychotherapy focused on eliciting lifestyle choices to enhance physical and mental health.  This is a great supplement to medication treatment for physical and mental health conditions.

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)—Deeply restorative practice of awareness and following the breath, for individuals, groups and staff development.  Be here now.  Get out of the past.  Stay out of the future.


Multicultural Therapy—Achieve peace and well-being by overcoming the inner conflicts and the interpersonal challenges associated with straddling two or more cultures.


Women’s Wellness—Individual therapy and Group Retreats focused on the unique needs of women’s mental health and well-being, including the challenges faced by women who choose to be childless.


 Call (619) 379-7450 to schedule an appointment.

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